Dating Etiquette for Men and Women

Guidance from JAIDA® International Matchmakers

Punctuality

Men
At JAIDA®, we uphold traditional values. As a gentleman, arriving before your date—or at the very least, on time—is a mark of respect. Keeping a lady waiting is never acceptable. It sets the tone for your entire interaction and speaks volumes about your character.

Women
This isn’t your wedding day—it’s a first meeting. Dismiss outdated notions of being “fashionably late.” Arriving on time shows respect for your date’s time and your own intentions. With any luck, he’ll already be there, eager to meet you.

Chivalry

Men
Chivalry isn’t outdated—it’s elegant. Whether it’s opening a door, pulling out a chair, or placing an order on her behalf after asking her preference, these gestures are thoughtful and appreciated. If she prefers otherwise, respect her wishes, but never compromise your values for fear of being misunderstood.

Women
We encourage our male members to be chivalrous. If you wish to be treated like a lady, allow space for that treatment. Courtesy is not dominance; it’s appreciation. Communicate your boundaries with grace, and recognize the intent behind respectful actions.

Honesty

Men
Authenticity is essential. Be open about your intentions, whether you’re uninterested in remarrying or you envision children in your future. You're seeking compatibility, not walking on eggshells. Honesty now prevents disappointment later.

Women
Don’t downplay your goals for fear of appearing “too much.” Whether you value commitment, emotional depth, or personal independence, express yourself clearly. Compatibility can only be discovered through sincere conversation.

Red Flags

Men & Women
Red flags aren’t always glaring, but you’ll feel them. Don’t ignore signs that jar emotionally, mentally, or physically. These can include how your date speaks to service staff, references ex-partners, or dismisses your viewpoints. Trust your instincts, and use those signals as vital information for deciding whether to continue.

Messaging Boundaries

Men
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s tempting to push for a meeting quickly. But true compatibility takes time and care. If a woman isn’t ready, respect her pace. Patience in elite dating pays off. If messaging feels endless, decide whether it’s worth continuing—but never rush.

Women
The same standard applies to you. Don’t rush to meet a man before you’re ready or to avoid awkward texting. A coffee date is easy to schedule, but consider your motives. If he’s genuinely aligned, a little patience will not deter him.

End of the Date

Men
The date isn’t over until she gets home safely. Whether or not there’s chemistry, it’s gentlemanly to check in via text and ensure she arrives home without incident. If you enjoyed her company, express it clearly and courteously.

Women
You’re never obligated to respond in any particular way. If you enjoyed yourself, it’s perfectly fine to say so—just be mindful not to get swept up too quickly. Keep the energy light and genuine, and let your interest unfold naturally.

Sex on the First Date

Men
Physical intimacy should not be expected. At JAIDA®, we encourage emotional connection first. If both parties have clearly expressed consent, that’s different—but in executive dating, meaningful bonds take priority. Move too fast, and you risk derailing something beautiful.

Women
No matter how much chemistry there is, refrain from rushing intimacy. A strong connection can wait. Especially in international dating, where timing is sensitive, preserving the pace adds to the value of what’s being built.

Playing Hard to Get

Men & Women
Mixed signals? Consider them a clear no. Authenticity leaves no room for games. Courtship is appreciated—but emotional manipulation is not. Respond at a pace that feels natural, and be direct in your intentions. Emotional honesty is a luxury, don’t undervalue it.

Paying the Bill

Men
If you extended the invitation, you should cover the bill. Even if your date offers to split, your reaction will be noted. Graciously accept her offer on a future outing, but let your first impression reflect generosity and leadership.

Women
Allow him to pay if he wishes. It’s not about financial power, it’s about gesture and values. You can reciprocate later, but on the first date, accepting graciously is often appreciated.

Ghosting

Men & Women
As an exclusive agency, we provide post-date feedback, which helps limit ghosting. Still, personal responsibility matters. Disappearing without communication is unkind and disrespectful. If your feelings change, say so. Honesty may sting, but silence erodes trust.

Oversharing

Men & Women
Be conscious of how much personal detail you reveal early on. Avoid lengthy stories about past heartbreaks or intense life circumstances—save those for deeper conversations. Initial dates are for discovering shared values and chemistry, not full life histories.

Knowing When to Move On

Men & Women
Not every introduction will spark fireworks. If there’s no mental, emotional, or physical connection after one or two dates, it’s okay to walk away. Be honest with yourself and the other person. Holding on for the sake of being polite does more harm than good.

Safety First

Men & Women
Always meet in a public setting. Inform a trusted friend of your location, and never assume your safety is being managed by someone else, not even your matchmaker. Respect and discretion are part of our service, but personal vigilance is essential.

Know Your Intentions

Men & Women
Before every date, take a moment to remind yourself why you’re dating and what outcome you hope for. Clarifying your intentions helps your communication and keeps you aligned with your ultimate relationship goals.